This page is a tribute to the love of my life Wan Lynch who suffered a stroke and passed away just before Christmas 2019. It’s tough starting over looking for love at this age, I’m 68. So I’m not really sure where life will lead me. God, please guide me as I write this possibly last chapter in my life’s story. 🙏
As it’s often said – when your time is up – it’s up – and you leave this earth. My sweetheart Wan suffered a stroke Sunday and was rushed to the ER. A brain embolism put her in a coma. She was brain-dead and taken off the ventilator. Thought we would grow older and be together forever.
Her loss came while she was at Nexus Thai Church in Bradenton FL. Paramedics got there quickly but the damage was already done. A brain bleeds from an Asian disease called MoyaMoya which is clotting of the main arteries in the brain. New paths grew to deliver the blood where it was needed.
From what the neurosurgeon told me, one of those vessels burst and flooded her brain with blood. They tried inserting a tube to drain the blood but it soon clotted. The large volume of blood squeezed her brain causing it to die at only 63 years young. She was kind and considerate toward everyone. 😥
I met Jareewan, Wan, for short on match-com after my wife passed away. At that time my life was a mess. I drank Captain Morgsns and could put down a fifth every night. I also smoked three packs of Marlboro menthol cigarettes daily. On top of that, my mouth was filthy with often used colorful metaphors, and I used our Lord’s name in vain. I will forever believe she was the Angel God sent to save me. And that’s just what she did. After about a month into our loving relationship, she said, If you don’t stop drinking and smoking you will not live much longer.
I did not respond but was thinking about my Dad who died of emphysema when I was a teenager and remembered Mom driving him to Shands teaching hospital in Gainsville FL where they put a tube thingy in his thought to breathe. He literally suffocated to death. We went to bed but I could not fall asleep. I kept thinking about Wan who cared for her late husband who died of cancer. I made up my mind that night my bad ways had to go. I wouldn’t want to be a burden to her. It was February 2009. When we woke up in the morning I said, I’m done. Wan replied what with me? NO not you, with the booze and smokes. And since that day I’ve never gone back. I listened and gave deep thought to what she said knowing in my heart she was correct. God gave me the wisdom to learn right from wrong from others. 🙂